這些有關男人的祕密都是假的:相信我,我是“專家”
1. The Myth: Men Are Not Emotional
祕密一：男人不會動情False! Men are emotional; we've just been taught from adolescence that being emotional is synonymous with weakness, and that weakness is a quality no man should be associated with.
錯！男人也會情緒化；青春期的時候我們被這樣教導：情緒化無異於軟弱，而軟弱並不是男人該有的品質。Through learning to care for others, playing with dolls, and other things typically associated with a female adolescence, women have been taught just the opposite and are encouraged to share how they feel. Men, on the other hand, play with action figures and video games that perpetuate violence and encourage toughness. Thus, we usually get angry and/or violent when emotional.
人們教育女孩的方式與男孩兒恰恰相反：學習照顧別人、玩娃娃、做些其她少女會做的事情，並且鼓勵她們與別人訴說自己的感受。而男人則扮演硬漢角色、玩鼓勵暴力和強硬的電子遊戲。因此，當我們情緒化的時候，我們往往會生氣或暴力。
Thankfully, gender norms are being challenged, and hopefully the expression of emotion will become less mutually exclusive among genders.
令人高興的是，性別模式受到了挑戰，但願不同性別的人在表達感情方面會少點排斥。
2. The Myth: Men Don't Like Women to Earn More Than Them
祕密二：男人不喜歡女人掙得比他多While it's been documented that women earn significantly less money than men in the same position, men - at least modern men - are more than OK with women earning more dough than her beau.
雖然已有證據證明同樣的職位，女性比男性掙得少得多，但男人--至少現代男人--覺得女性掙得比她的追求者多是件再正常不過的事情。Again, dated gender roles have taught us that men should be the sole provider of the household, and that's just not the case anymore. As such, as this transition occurs throughout society, the occasional man may feel insecure about his financial situation - not because he's not supportive of her, but because he feels as though he isn't fulfilling his end of the bargain, and is failing you as a partner.
過時的性別角色告訴我們：男人應該獨自養家，但現在時代變了。因此，整個社會都正在過渡，很少會有男人對自己的財務狀況感到不安--並不是因爲他不支持她，而是因爲他覺得自己沒有履行自己的職責，是個不稱職的伴侶。In my own relationship, I'd earned more money than my girlfriend for most of our relationship, but recently, my girlfriend got a promotion and earns a more solid income than I do. How did I feel? Proud! I love that she's successful in her career. It's actually a huge turn-on. Dated gender roles aren't going to get in the way of my girlfriend's success or my emotional support as her boyfriend.
在我的戀愛關係中，大多數時候我都掙得比女朋友多，但最近，我女朋友升職了，因此比我掙的多得多。我是什麼感受呢？當然是自豪了！我很高興她能幹出一番事業，這真的很刺激。過時的性別角色不會阻擋我女朋友的成功、也不會阻擋我支持她。3. The Myth: Men Only Care About a Woman's Appearance
祕密三：男人只注重女人外表This one's just stupid. Men aren't cavemen captivated by appearances. Both men and women look for the same or similar qualities in a partner. As we age, these qualities evolve as we experience failed relationships. Though admittedly, when we're young, we tend to be more shallow and date the "hot" ones.
這真是太蠢了。男人並不是被外表迷住的穴居人。找另一半的時候，男人和女人都會尋找同樣或相似的品質。當我們年紀越來越大並從失敗的戀情中得出教訓時，這些品質的等級就會隨之升高。但不可否認，年輕時我們往往比較膚淺，只會和"辣妹"約會。
