雙語經典散文:朋友之間的距離
Friendship needs to be nurtured with sincere heart and some skills. I am not preaching here but to express my true feelings. You should not care too much about your friend, when male or female. Otherwise, he or she will feel over pressure. But you should not neglect him or her. Otherwise you will lose contact forever. It is hard to reciprocate equal love to each other, whether for friends or lovers. There is always one party who would give more than receive, and it is exactly this party who would suffer the most once something goes wrong. Therefore, oftentimes, you should remind yourself not to give too much when dealing with your friend to prevent both of you from hurt. So now, I will not force others to do anything for me and bring them pressure.
朋友，需用心去經營，需有一定的藝術性。不是在講教，而是有切身的體會。對一個朋友，且不論男女朋友，不能太過於重視，否則對方會覺得壓力很大，會被你的重視壓的喘不過氣，但又不能過於疏忽，過於疏忽，可能就不會在有聯繫。無論是朋友之間，或是戀人之間，對對方的情感，肯定是無法對等的。總會有付出較多的一方，而往往是付出多的一方容易受到傷害。所以，現在很多時候在和朋友相處的時候，都會告戒自己，要控制自己的付出，這樣會讓自己和朋友都不受傷害。所以我現在不會強求別人，要儘量不要給別人帶來壓力。
Not all the people you know can become your friends. Everyone has his value of life, ways of behaving, interests and hobbies and personalities. Therefore, everyone has his own criteria to select friends. My principle of making friends is to achieve communication of hearts. I often hold that no one can live without friendship, assistance, care and support from others. When your friends encounter setbacks, if you can offer them a hand and help them out, it is more precious than any priceless gifts. The essence of friendship lies in reciprocal help and share of happiness and sorrows. Only by doing this can friendship last eternally.
生活中並不是所有的人都能成爲朋友。每個人都有自己的人生態度、處世方式、情趣愛好和性格特點，選擇朋友也有各自的標準和條件。我交朋友的原則是追求心靈的溝通。我常想，人生活在世界上，離不開友情，離不開互助，離不開關心，離不開支持。在朋友遇到困難、受到挫折時，如果伸出援助之手，幫助對方度過難關，戰勝困難，要比贈送名貴禮品有用的多，也牢靠得多。既爲朋友，就意味着相互承擔着排憂解難、歡樂與共的義務。唯此，友誼才能持久常存。
Sometimes hurt will be engendered between friends, but more often than not, it is done unintentionally. However, help from your friends is indeed out of their heart! So please forget the hurt done unintentionally and keep sincere help from your friends in mind, and you will realize there are many real friends who care about you……In our lives, even the best friends will have some friction now and again, and our friendship may breakdown because of it. But when we could not fall into sleep on a lonely night and look into the sky, we could see a lot of beautiful memories, some of which may bring a huge affection to our heart. It is this feeling that makes us realize the significance of friends. For friendship, you should not be too close to your friends. Otherwise the relationship may become too complex. Nor should you be too remote from them. Otherwise you may lose contact. Only by staying at an apt distance to your friends can you truly sense each other’s sincerity and love. Everyone has his own life, so when you feel upset and discouraged, when you realize your friends become apathetic, please treasure your friendship, whether it is on the internet or in real life. Friendship is just like water and air to us! Do not feel sad only until you lose it!
朋友的相處傷害往往是無心的，幫助卻是真心的，忘記那些無心的傷害;銘記那些對你真心幫助，你會發現這世上你有很多真心的朋友……在日常生活中，就算最要好的朋友也會有摩擦，我們也許會因這些摩擦而分開。但每當夜闌人靜時，我們望向星空，總會看到過去的美好回憶。一些瑣碎的回憶爲我寂寞的心靈帶來無限的震撼!就是這感覺，令我更明白朋友對我的重要! 友情也是一樣的，太近了關係會變的複雜，太遠了，就失去了聯繫，不近不遠剛剛好，只能感受到彼此的真誠與情誼。每一個人都有一方屬於自己的樂土，朋友，當你心情沮喪的時候，當你灰心失望的時候，當你覺得好友漸漸淡漠的時候，請珍惜朋友真摯的友情，不管是在網絡的友情還是現實生活中的，友誼如同空氣如水，不要到失去的時候才痛感它的可貴。
I want to own a huge number of bosom friends, but I know it is out of the question. I just let it be without thinking too much. Those who are doomed to be my friends will come to me naturally, while those who are not can barely be retained once they want to leave from me. When friendship comes to an end, it is no need to sigh and insist. Rather, we should get rid of the pessimistic side and showcase our most graceful personality to others. We should live a life with our lives, because we are living not for pain, but for happiness that stems from mutual understanding.
我想永遠擁有許多真心的朋友，但我深知這是不可能的。離散聚合，應順其自然，不必勉強。屬於我的朋友，會向我走來，不屬於我的朋友，留也留不住，如果真到了一躬而別的時候，無須哀怨，更不能太計較太執著了，權且將人生悲涼灰頹的一面獨自吞嚥，再將亮麗壯美的品質展示給他人，用生命去體驗人生就是。因爲人活着不是爲了痛苦，人生樂在心相知。
Please cherish your friends no matter what happens. Maybe your friendship will not last long or will be forgotten one day, but you should attach enough importance to it. It is a seed that will bud, grow leaves, blossom and even bear fruits in your heart once you care about it. The flagrance from the blooming flowers will accompany you all your life……
珍惜身邊的每一份友情，無論它是不是已經過去，無論它會不會有將來。也許不會天長地久，也許會淡忘，也許會疏遠，但卻從來都不應該遺忘。它是一粒種子，珍惜了，就會在你的心裏萌芽，抽葉，開花，直至結果。而那種綻放時的清香也將伴你前行一生一世……
