生活哲理文章：如何獲得快樂的祕訣

摘錄：快速的看看自己在某些情況下的反應，看看那些讓你生氣不開心的人，審視一下在他們影響下你所形成的思維模式。要是腦子裏滿是消極負面的思想--“沒人喜歡我”或者“在這個工作中我絕不可能會取得成功”等等，那麼也就不會有什麼好事情了。

Life can beat us up and suck the happiness out of our days.

Relationships, work, loss and physical illness can pile on and make our hearts hurt. But all of us know someone who seems happy even when they’re experiencing difficulty in some part of their life.

生活能夠打敗我們，奪走我們的幸福。

感情、工作、損失、身體上的疾病等發生後會讓我們難受。但是我們知道有些人即使在人生路上經歷困境之後似乎還是很快樂。

Their secret?

They’ve learned to control their thought lives.

他們的祕訣是什麼呢?

他們已經學會了如何掌握自己的思想生活。

Here are five ways to change your mind.

這裏有改變自我想法的五種方法。

nose your thought patterns.

審視自己的思維模式

Take a quick biopsy of your reactions to situations and people that make you angry or unhappy, and diagnose the thought patterns you’ve formed around them. If your head is full of negative stuff- “Nobody likes me,” or “I’ll never succeed in this job,” etc., then there’s no room for anything good.

快速的看看自己在某些情況下的反應，看看那些讓你生氣不開心的人，審視一下在他們影響下你所形成的思維模式。要是腦子裏滿是消極負面的思想--“沒人喜歡我”或者“在這個工作中我絕不可能會取得成功”等等，那麼也就不會有什麼好事情了。

Understanding that your thoughts are negative before you allow yourself to react to them emotionally gives you a chance to decide to replace it with a happier one.

知道自己思想消極之後你要允許自己情緒上有一定的反應，給你自己一個機會去快樂。

The result: More happiness.

其影響的結果就是：獲得更多的快樂。

tify attitude problems and get rid of them.

明確問題並處理好問題

Truth is, a lot of how other people react to us is largely determined by the things we say and the attitudes we project.

事實上很多人對我們的態度很大程度上都取決於我們所說的事情以及我們做事的態度。

If you change your thinking from “I hate this job,” to “I’m going to try my best today to make work a better place,” you’ll be amazed at how things feel different.

要是你將自己的思想從“我討厭這份工作”轉變爲“今天我要盡我最大的努力把事情做到最好”，你會驚奇地發現這種感覺是多麼的不一樣。

3. Stop thinking about the past.

不要再追憶過去

If you’re sad or unhappy about stuff that happened yesterday, guess what?

要是你一直因爲以前所發生的那些事情而悲傷難過，你猜會怎樣?

You’re spending today on something you can’t control or change. Neuroscientists have proven that focusing on regrets from the past harms your brain chemistry and keeps you stuck in unhappiness.

現在你還得應付那些你還不能掌控的事情。神經學家已經發現一直因過去的事情而悔恨的這一行爲會傷害到你大腦中的化學物質，讓你一直覺得不開心。

out harmful connections.

切斷那些對我們有害的人和事物的連繫

The truth is, there are some people and some situations that are toxic to us.

實際生活中，有些人、有些事對我自身會造成不良的影響。

If you frequently associate with people whose negativity, abuse, or behavior consistently produces pain and drains your joy, then sometimes the only solution is distance.

如果你頻繁的和那些思想積極、愛抱怨、行動上傷害你或是讓你不開心的人聯繫，有時候唯一的辦法就是拉開和他們的距離。

If you can’t make it better, then save yourself by getting the toxicity out of your life. Your brain will thank you, and your happiness will rise.

如果不能將其變得更好，那就把這些對你不好的都趕出你的生活，保護好自己。你的理智會支持你這樣做，你也能獲得更快樂。

t your doubts.

要懷疑你不確定性事件

If you’re stuck in a miserable place because you’re simply too afraid to try something new, have a little faith!

如果你是因爲害怕嘗試新事物而痛苦，你要多一點自信。

Believe in yourself that if you take a step towards life change things will improve, and your doubts will start to drain, making room for the possibility of a better life.

如果你向前邁進一小步生活會有所好轉那就要相信你自己，你的疑慮也就會消除，給更好地生活多一點空間。

Even if you try something new and it doesn’t work out, your heart will beat stronger with the knowledge that you really tried. You’ll regroup and next time get a little closer to the change you really want.

如果你已經嘗試了新東西但還是沒效果，因爲你已經努力過了所以心也會變得越來越堅強。重新調整好，下次一定會更接近你想要的那種改變。

If you want to feel happier, you have to tune up your thinking.

要是你想更快樂，還得調整好你的思維方式。

Change your thinking, and you’ll change your life.

改變思維，你的生活也會有所不同。