雙語美文：人生開啓新的一頁

摘要：這兩週來最重要的發現是什麼?我證明了自己不是個糟糕的、充滿負能量的人。有研究表明樂觀的人一般更長壽，我相信自己足夠樂觀到去相信這些研究是正確的。

From August 1st to August 15th I fasted from complaining. Yes, that's right. No more "I'm tired" grumbles at 3 p.m. at the office. No more yelling at cars that cut me off on 440. No more snapping at people for not listening. The highlight of the two week period? I validated that I'm not a terrible, negative person, AND optimistic people tend to live longer according to some studies. And I'm optimistic enough to believe these studies are the correct studies.

So here you go: The top five things that occurred when I stopped complaining, both the good and the bad.

從8月1日那天起直到8月15日，我停止了對生活一切的抱怨。是的，我做到了。下午三點的辦公室，再也不會聽見我哀嘆着：“我好累”。在440地區被搶了車道，我不會再大喊大叫。有人無視我的話，我也不會勃然大怒。這兩週來最重要的發現是什麼?我證明了自己不是個糟糕的、充滿負能量的人。有研究表明樂觀的人一般更長壽，我相信自己足夠樂觀到去相信這些研究是正確的。

那麼接下來，我想談談自己停止抱怨生活之後的五個變化，其中有正面的，也有負面的。

1. I realized that I don't sleep enough. The biggest complaint that I had to bite my tongue on?

人生開啓新的一頁

1.我意識到自己睡眠不足，這是最不該掛在嘴邊的抱怨嗎?

"I'm tired." Or a variation of "I'm exhausted." American culture leaves us seeking to thrive off of no sleep and Starbucks. And is it really worth it to feel that negativity quite literally every day? I found myself almost getting annoyed with myself for being so tired. On the same note, I annoyed myself when I felt like uttering the complaint, "I'm starving." No, Alexii. You don't actually know what it really means to be hungry (so maybe you aren't THAT tired either).

“我好累”，或者再誇張點，“我要累死了”。美國文化迫使我們在不足的睡眠和一杯杯咖啡中度日。每天生活在這樣的負面環境中真的值得嗎?連我自己都很煩惱，爲什麼要把自己折騰得這麼累。同樣，當我想要喊出“我要餓死了”的時候，也十分煩惱。不，Alexii，你並不知道什麼叫真正的餓吧(所以也許你也並沒有自己說得這麼累)。

2. I argued less.

2.我吵架的頻率變少了。

I'm not exactly one to pick a fight, but I noticed how many stupid arguments I can have in a week. If my fiancé Alex said something I disagreed with, I couldn't immediately react. This helped me not snap -- and more importantly it made me think before anything came out of my mouth. I'm pretty sure we've been told since kindergarten, "Think before you speak" but I noted how often I neglect this simplest piece of advice.

我不是那種喜歡挑事的人，但我還是會發現一週裏自己有過多少次愚蠢的爭吵。如果我的未婚夫艾利克斯說了一些我反對的話，我不會馬上回應他。這樣我就不會大聲吼他，更重要的是，這樣我就有時間在說話前多思考思考了。我確信從幼兒園開始，大人們就告訴我們“三思而後言”，但我覺得我還是很容易忽視這個建議。

3. Angst builds up.

3.焦慮感增加了

Here's the deal: this experience was overall a positive experience for me. It truly made me reflect on my reactions to situations. That being said, sometimes people just need to vent. There was one day that I came home completely exhausted and slightly emotionally distraught. Instead of engaging in conversation with my friend that was at my house or my fiancé, I straight up shut down. It's almost as if I didn't know how to be positive in that moment. It was strange. And I went to bed early that night. But on a lighter note...

是這樣的：這種體驗對我來說是有好處的，它真的使我反省自己在特定處境下的行爲。話雖如此，有時人們只是需要釋放情緒而已。記得有一天我回到家，身心俱疲，心煩意亂。我沒有找當時在我家中的朋友或是未婚夫聊天，而是直接陷入沉默。彷彿那時我根本不知道怎樣讓自己樂觀起來，太奇怪了。那晚我很早就睡了，但反而感覺輕鬆了很多……

4. Negativity is a state of mind.

4.負能量是一種心境

When you stop yourself from uttering negative speech, you begin to notice how negative your thought process tends to be. Sure I didn't verbally complain when I was tired or annoyed -- but I still continued thinking them. And as much as negative speech can wear you down, negative thoughts are just as dangerous.

當你不再說出那些消極的話語，你會發現自己還是會有那些消極的想法。誠然，我言語上沒有抱怨疲勞或是煩躁，但我依然有着這樣的想法。和消極的話語一樣，消極的想法一樣危險到能夠擊垮你。

5. I prayed more.

5.我嘗試更多的祈禱

If I was forced to turn the negative into the positive, I turned to God. Perhaps its from prior experience--but for whatever reason, it happened. And my spirit felt nourished.

如果我一定要把負能量轉爲正能量，我會向上帝求助。也許是從前的經驗吧，不管怎樣，我感受到了精神上的洗禮。

And at the end of the day? Shit happens. After my fast from complaining, I had what may have been one of the worst days I had experienced. Imagine tough conversations that were draining but necessary (and even worse after the conversation, nothing was resolved) compiled with other people's negativity. Then add a few "first world" problems as I like to call them -- a poor night's sleep, a shattered phone, and a stalling car. What did I do? I complained. Where did it get me? Not too far. I noted a day later that things really aren't that bad. People have good days and people have bad days -- but the truth is? It's all about your outlook.

最後怎樣了呢?糟糕的事情還是發生了，在我拒絕抱怨之後，我經歷了非常糟的一天。想象一下：艱難的談話使你心力交瘁(更可惡的是談完之後什麼都沒有解決)，你不得不承受着別人的負能量。接着還有那些我稱之爲“第一世界”的麻煩困擾着你——睡眠不足，手機被摔壞，車子拋錨。我是怎麼應對的?我抱怨了。持續了多久呢?沒有多久，因爲後來我明白其實事情也沒有想象的那樣不堪。世事無常嘛，關鍵在於你怎樣看待這個世界。

　　相關閱讀：一些用來表達抱怨的單詞和短語：

1. that traffic here really sucks! 這裏的交通糟透了!

2. i am sick and tired of doing homework. 我對做作業感到厭煩。

3. the food is terrible/horrible. 食物很難吃。

4. that movie was a turn-off. 那部電影真是讓我倒盡胃口。

5. you scared/frightened me! 你嚇到我了。

6. that's a stupid idea。愚蠢的提議。

7. i'm so pissed off with his attitude. 我對他的態度感到非常反感。

8. you are mean. 你很壞。

9. he is shaky. 他不太可靠。

　　下面是一些抱怨事情做得不好的表達：

1. i'm afraid it just isn't good enough。恐怕這不夠好。

2. it's not what i had in mind。我想要的可不是這個。

3. it's not what i hoped for。我期待的可不是這樣的。