第一次約會的禁忌話題:8件事說不得
We've all been on first dates where some surprising snippet of personal information is dropped into the conversation in a way that is as jarring an earring falling into your soup. And we've all done it. The following is a list of topics that are best to avoid on a first date:
我們都有過第一次約會時一些個人信息的驚訝片段進入了談話中，就像耳環掉進湯裏那般不和諧。我們都有過。下面是一張首次約會時最好能避免的主題清單：
1. The ex. It's best not to vomit up what went wrong in your last relationship. If you do, your date will be sure to pick up any information about how you might behave in a relationship with him or her. So zip it. Never share the details, particularly the gory ones, until you know each other a whole lot better.
1．前度。最好不要抱怨你的上段戀情出了什麼問題。如果你這樣做，你的約會一定會涉及到在與他（她）的關係中你可能會如何表現的一些信息。所以閉嘴。絕不分享細節，特別是暴力的，除非你們很好地瞭解對方了。
2. Your finances. There's a lot of talk right now about people being financially strapped -- there's even a new sitcom about a divorced woman living with her parents. But it's not sexy, okay? Again, let's hope that you are so stunning in other ways that your date doesn't give a damn. But don't count on it. It's best to tread softly when you reveal financial woes.
2．你的財務狀況。現在有很多談話關於人們財政拮据，甚至還有一個離婚女人與父母一起生活的新狀況。但這不是性感，好嗎？再一次，讓我們希望你在其他方面是如此的魅力四射，以至於你的約會對象並不在乎。但不要指望。當你揭示金融困境時最好謹慎行事。
3. Beloved pets. Nothing is more unappealing than listening to a new date express undying love for their pet. Keep the iPhone photos to yourself. And don't say you can't ever have a sleepover because your cat or dog can't be left alone. As for deceased pets you had in childhood, let them rest in peace.
3．心愛的寵物。沒有什麼比聽新的約會對象表達對寵物永恆的愛更缺乏吸引力。iPhone照片留給你自己。不要說你不能在外過夜，因爲你的貓或狗不能被單獨扔下。至於你童年時去世的寵物，讓它們安息吧。
4. Physical ailments. This is especially important for hypochondriacs. Trust me -- only your doctor is interested in a history of your ailments and injuries. And if you have any suspicious rashes, particularly on hidden parts of your body, don't tell your date, okay?
4．身體疾病。這對疑病症患者是尤其重要的。相信我，只有你的醫生對你的病歷感興趣。如果你有任何可疑的皮疹，特別是在你身體隱藏的部分，不要告訴你的約會對象，好嗎？
5. Special diets. If you subscribe to a restricted eating lifestyle, don't discuss it at length. Vegans should go easy, particularly if their date is happily cutting into a big juicy steak. Eccentric eating preferences should also be handled carefully. I once had a date with someone who revealed they only ate white food. I still can't articulate why, but this was an immediate total turnoff.
5．特殊飲食。如果你在堅持一種受限制的飲食生活方式，不要深度討論它。純素食者應該寬容，尤其是如果他們的約會對象正愉快地切着一大塊多汁牛排時。古怪的飲食偏好也應該謹慎處理。我曾經和某人約會，他透露他們只吃白色食物。我仍然無法說清楚爲什麼，但這是分道揚鑣的直接原因。
6. Your brilliant children. All of us are crazy about our kids. We think they're incredibly talented and adore their quirky behavior, but a total stranger has absolutely no need to know the details. Of course, do reveal you have kids. Mention their ages. Then move on.
6．你才華橫溢的孩子。我們所有人都喜歡自己的孩子。我們認爲他們是難以置信的天才，並崇拜他們的古怪行爲，但一個陌生人完全沒有必要知道細節。當然，確實要申明你有孩子。提到他們的年齡。然後生活繼續。
7. You don't like sex. You may get lucky and be dating someone who feels exactly the way you do. But it's not likely, okay? So save this tidbit for later.
7．你不喜歡性。你可能會很幸運，正與一個與你有相同感覺的人在約會。但這是不可能的，好嗎？所以稍後這小消息就省省吧。
8. How miserable and lonely you are. Chances are your date is equally miserable and lonely, but it's still a big turnoff and should be kept for your therapist. For your date, put on your best face and keep it in the light zone. And who knows? Maybe a sliver of magic will pass between you.
8.你是多麼痛苦孤獨。恰巧你的約會對象同樣得痛苦和孤獨，但它仍然是一個大的分手誘因，這隻需告訴你的治療師。爲你的約會對象展現最美的容顏，並保持積極。誰知道呢？也許一道魔力將在你們之間產生。
