在保姆面前父母永遠都不該提這些事
Being a nanny — and having one — can be a great experience. Not only do nannies get to care for a sweet, adorable child, they also get to inspire and teach a developing mind. When you find a great nanny, sometimes they start to feel like family.
作爲保姆——或請了一個保姆——都是一個很棒的經歷。保姆不僅能照顧一個暖心可愛的孩子，還能激勵他們、教會他們成長。當找到一位很棒的保姆時，你有時候會覺得她們/他們就像家人一樣。I've been a nanny on and off over the past five years, and I've gotten very close to the families I have worked for. However, it's important to remember that no matter how much we might feel like family, we actually aren't. That means there are lines you shouldn't cross, discussions you shouldn't have.
過去五年，我斷斷續續地做過保姆，我與僱傭我的家庭也都十分親近。然而，記住這一點十分重要：無論覺得自己多麼像僱主的親人，實際上我們並不是。這就意味着有些底線你是不該跨越的、有些對話你們是不能談的。To ensure that you aren't pushing boundaries and making your nanny uncomfortable, here are three things you should never do in front of your nanny.
爲了確保你沒有跨過界限，讓你的保姆不舒服，你就不應該在保姆面前做這三件事。
1. Talk about your finances.
1. 談論自己的財務狀況。If you’re struggling financially, try not to bring it up casually in front of your nanny, or any other employee for that matter. It will make them think they should be charging less or they might lose their job. If you do need them to take a pay cut or let them go, that should be discussed in an established meeting.
如果你經濟困難，儘量不要在保姆或任何其他僱員面前隨意提到這件事。因爲這會讓他們有種需要少收費或他們可能失業的感覺。如果你的確需要他們減薪或解僱他們，那就應該在正式場合告訴他們。On the other hand, if you happen to be rolling in it, make sure you aren’t saying too much on that matter either. Your nanny might think you're underpaying her, which won’t end well for anyone.
另一方面，如果你很有錢，一定確保自己不要過多炫富。因爲你的保姆可能會覺得你給她的工資開低了，這對任何人來說都不是一件好事。2. Fight with your partner or talk badly of them.
2. 和另一半爭吵或說他們壞話。This should go without saying, but sometimes nannies become so familiar that you might not realize they're even around. It's best, however, to make sure that your private matters are kept private.
這點不言自明，但有時候你太熟悉保姆了，你可能都沒有意識到她在身邊。然而，最好還是確保在私底下解決自己的私事。Unless your nanny is also your best friend, try not to air your dirty laundry with them when they still have to work professionally with your other half. It might ruin any relationship or respect they've built up with your partner and it can be uncomfortable for your nanny.
除非你的保姆也是你最好的朋友，否則在他們還要與你的另一半有工作上的接觸時，儘量不要和他們倒苦水。這可能會毀掉她/他對另一半的尊重、也會毀掉他們之間建立的友情，而且你的保姆也會感到不舒服。3. Complain about your last nanny.
3. 抱怨上一個保姆。It’s another to talk harshly about their style, looks, or interests. Talking down about these things will make your current nanny feel like that could be said about them as well.
苛刻的談論上一個保姆的風格、長相或興趣不是件好事。談論這些事情會讓現任保姆覺得你也有可能這麼說她/他。
