談戀愛時永遠不要在社交媒體上秀這些事情

Always ask first or just simply refrain from posting about your relationship in general. We get that you want the world to know how amazing your significant other is, and that's perfectly fine, but when you start posting too much and filling up your newsfeed with nonsense, don't be surprised if you start to lose a few followers.

總得先問另一半的意思，或者不要什麼事都在網上曬。我們知道，你想讓全世界都知道你的另一半有多棒，這沒關係，但如果你總是秀恩愛、每條狀態都口無遮攔，那可不要因爲別人對你取消關注而吃驚哦。

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YOUR FOUR MONTH/ EIGHT MONTH/ 221-DAY ANNIVERSARY

你們4個月/8個月/221天紀念日

"Posting these 'milestones' to the cyber world makes it look like you're trying to prove to others how strong or long lasting your relationship is, rather than just enjoying it," writer, editor and gender studies major Rochelle Scarlett, says. "One year, two years, ten years- sure, go wild! But why would Barbra from year 11 Biology care that it's 96 days since your first kiss? Or your cousin's new wife care about your four months together? Prove to your partner how strong you are, not them."

"在網絡世界發佈這些紀念日會給人這樣一種感覺：你在向其他人證明你們的感情有多牢固、有多持久，而不是給人享受其中之感。"作家、編輯和專攻性別研究的羅謝爾·斯嘉麗說道。"一年、兩年、十年……太瘋狂了！但當年高二學生物護理的芭芭拉根本就不在乎這是你們初吻的第96天紀念日，你表哥剛娶的老婆也不會在乎你們在一起四個月了。你應該向另一半證明你有多堅強，而不是向他們。"

INAPPROPRIATE PHOTOS IN BED

牀上不雅照

"It's the baffling image that circulates social media time and time again - the girl pulling the sheet up to cover herself while her bloke lies there grinning, smugly", Scarlett says. "Do you want us to congratulate you? Ask you how it was? It's like inviting 950 acquaintances into your bedroom aFTer you've just done it for a high five." This is just a definite no on so many levels, she adds.

"這是社交媒體上一次又一次流傳的令人困惑的圖片--女孩兒抓着被單裹住自己的身體，而她的另一半卻躺在那裏得意的笑，"斯嘉麗說道。"難道你想讓我們恭喜你？問問你進展得順不順利？這就好像你們在完事之後，邀請950個熟人到你們臥室參觀，和你擊掌慶賀一樣。"她補充說，無論如何都不要秀這種照片。

EXPENSIVE PRESENTS AND GIFTS

昂貴的禮物

"Posting things like this shouts to your followers 'look how worthwhile I am, my partner thinks I'm worth this amount of money, I'm special'. And trust me, that kind of showing off does not come well received," Scarlett says. "You wouldn't flaunt your bank statement online, would you? This kind of behavior often stems from insecurity in the relationship, but that reassurance needs to be found from your partner, not your friends online."

"在網上曬這種照片就好像在對關注你的人說'看看我多值錢啊，我的另一半認爲我值這麼多錢呢，我真特別'。但相信我，這種炫耀並不是很受歡迎，"斯嘉麗說道。"你不會在網上曬你的銀行賬單，對不？這種行爲往往源於感情中沒有安全感，但這種安慰是需要從另一半而不是網友身上尋找的。"

THE FIGHT YOU'VE JUST HAD

你們剛剛吵了一架

The reality is that most fights we have with our partner we get over. "Of course, when it's happening it seems like the worst thing in the world, but DO NOT post this online," Scarlett says.

事實上，大多數與另一半的爭吵都會被克服。"當然，吵架的時候就好像發生了全世界最糟糕的事情，但千萬不要在網上發佈你們的爭吵，"斯嘉麗說道。