單身人士給已婚人士的建議:如何昇華你們的感情
KNOW THYSELF
認識你自己"Know thyself" is one of the oldest, wisest maxims in the book. It helps in every area of life, but it also helps in relationships.
"認識你自己"是書本上最古老、最智慧的格言之一。它有助於生活的方方面面，但它也能幫助你的感情。In this arena specifically, longtime singles may have something to teach longtime-coupled folks. In getting to know yourself intimately as full-fledged adults, singletons may inadvertently set themselves up to have better long-term relationships later in life. They know who they are, where they are going, and how to care for themselves emotionally and physically.
在感情方面，常年單身的人或能給戀人們提出一些建議。爲了熟悉自己是什麼樣的成年人，單身人士可能會在不經意間爲他們以後的生活建立更好的長久戀情。他們瞭解真實的自己、知道自己要去哪兒、知道如何照顧自己（身心照顧）。
Coupled partners can hone these skills, too. You can absolutely take solo trips, make friends you don't share with your significant other, or set up individual goals for personal growth, so you return to your relationship more rejuvenated than before-and keep resentment at bay, which can often build up over time if you adopt too many of your partner's lifestyles and desires. Even if you're happily coupled or married, you should still take a page from the single playbook.
戀人也可以磨鍊這些技能。你完全可以單獨旅行、結交一些另一半不認識的朋友、或者爲自身成長設定個人目標，這樣你就能更有活力--不再憤怒，如果你在很大程度上受到了另一半生活習慣和慾望的影響，那麼隨着時間的推移，怨恨是會慢慢堆積的。即使你們的婚姻幸福美滿，你也應該看看單身人士給出的建議。GO ON DATES. REAL, INTERESTING DATES.
去約會，真正的、有趣的約會。I know it's tempting to curl up on the couch with Netflix and takeout, but put in the effort once in a while. Go on real, honest-to-goodness dates with your partner. There's a reason bonding happens so quickly when you're newly dating. You see your romantic interest in new situations. Plus, sides of that person you never knew existed come to the forefront. If you're coupled, going on dates-a weekend trip, a new activity-can remind you of qualities in your partner you don't commonly see. That's a huge turn-on.
我知道，蜷縮在沙發上看着電視、吃着外賣十分誘人，但是偶爾折騰一下吧。和另一半來一次真正的、誠實的約會。開始約會的時候，你們的關係發展很快，這是有一定道理的。你們在新的環境下談情說愛。另外，約會對象身上你不知道的另一面也會展現出來。如果你們已經是一對了，那約會--一場週末之旅、一項新的活動--會讓你記起另一半身上你不常見的品質。可真撩人啊！SPEND TIME GETTING TO KNOW YOURSELF INTIMATELY
抽時間瞭解自己When you're single, you spend a lot of time on your own, focusing exclusively on your own needs and wants. While it's great to integrate another's desires into your life plan, you never want to lose yourself in a relationship. If you've started to lose sight of your own wishes, try taking a few hours a week for yourself. Schedule them out after the kids go to sleep or while your partner is at work. Journal, read, meditate and reflect on how to improve yourself-and your life as a whole, not just your relationship.
單身的時候，很多時間都是一個人度過，專注於自己的需求和慾望。雖然把另一個人的慾望融入自己的生活計劃是件好事，但也千萬不要在談戀愛的時候失去自我。如果你已經開始忽視自己的願望，那就試着每週給自己留幾個小時。在孩子睡覺之後或者另一半工作的時候，留點時間給自己。看看雜誌、讀讀書、冥想、思考如何提高自己--以及自己的人生，不僅僅侷限於你的戀情。
