當這些母親全天候與寶寶呆在一起時,她們是如何戰勝孤獨的?
Without sounding too dramatic, I'm going to say that loneliness is a plague sweeping the motherhood community.
雖然我不想聽起來戲劇化，但我要說孤獨是侵襲所有母親的瘟疫。Every day I'm with my with little ones. Nonstop. Like, I pee with an audience. I shower with someone knocking on the door too. And I love it all. Being a stay-at-home mom is the greatest thing ever and exactly what I told my husband I wanted to be "when I grew up" during our dating days. But, it doesn't go without its hardships. My greatest blessing is also my greatest struggle.
每天我都和寶寶呆在一起。沒有間隙。比如說，我上廁所他/她會跟着我。我洗澡的時候他/她也會敲門。我很享受這一切。成爲全職主婦是最美好的事情，年輕時和老公約會的時候，我也是這麼跟他說的，"以後我要成爲全職媽媽"。但是，成爲全職媽媽也是有困難的。我最美好的祝福也是我最艱難的奮鬥。And it all goes back to loneliness. I'm lonely. Not alone, never alone, but lonely inside my mind and my heart. Because motherhood takes everything I have.
最終都歸因於孤獨。我很孤獨。不是因爲獨自一人，我從來都不是獨自一人，我所說的是大腦和內心的孤獨。因爲身爲母親的我，放棄了一切。
I average an hour or two of adult interaction each day when my husband gets home from work, but that doesn't come close to filling my tank. Especially because, although we talk, it's lots of logistics about dinner prep and bath time and his work day. Thank goodness for our occasional date nights when we leave and reset!
丈夫上班回家後，我平均每天能和他有一兩個小時的互動，但這根本不能滿足我的需求。特別是因爲，雖然我們說話，但大多數說的都是準備晚餐、洗澡以及他的工作。還好我們會偶爾出去約會，這時我能拋開一切，重新活力滿滿！To beat loneliness I have to be intentional and I know other moms find themselves seeking the cure for loneliness alongside me. We have to or else we'll scare the grocery checker with our incessant chatter and longing for a deeper relationship!
我必須十分刻意才能戰勝孤獨，我知道在戰勝孤獨的路途上，還有其她母親和我並肩而行。我們必須這樣，否則我們的喋喋不休以及渴望更近一步的感情會嚇壞雜貨店收銀員的！
"Video chatting with friends and family during the normal course of the day. Seriously the best! We have coffee together, eat lunch, and just do life and feel like we're doing it together". - Mindy W.
"每天可以與朋友、家人視頻聊天。講真，這是最好的方法！我們一起喝咖啡、吃午餐、做着日常瑣事，感覺好像我們真的在一起一樣"。--Mindy W。"The women's hiking group my sister and I started a few years ago has been life changing for me. Women need real-life relationships and even with young kids, it's critical that we still invest in our friendships." - Angela S.
"幾年前我和姐妹參加了女子遠足俱樂部，這改變了我的生活。女性需要現實的友情，即使和自己的寶寶呆在一起時，花精力投入到友情中也十分重要。"--Angela S。"Regularly take your kids and go meet other moms for a walk. When my kids were little we would meet at the mall before opening and let them play in the play area after our walk. In the summer, we would walk around the lake or along the boardwalk downtown and finish at the park for the kids to play. Have plenty of snacks and toys for the little ones so you can enjoy an adult conversation." - Tanya M.
"定期帶自己的孩子和其她媽媽們一起散散步。孩子小的時候，可以在商場開門前約在商場見面，散完步後可以讓他們在遊玩區嬉戲。夏天的時候，可以在湖邊或沿着市中心的木板路散步，然後走到公園讓孩子們自己玩耍。帶上足夠的零食和玩具，這樣你就能好好享受和同齡人的談話了。"--Tanya M。
