心靈雞湯:生活之道 幸福就是多樣性
Low carb is not the right diet for everyone. Bungee-jumping is not the sport for everyone. Condo living is not a comfortable living arrangement for everyone. And there is no set blueprint for your life either.
低糖並不是每個人的正確飲食。蹦極也不是每個人的運動。公寓生活也不是適應每個人的舒適居住方式。生也沒有固定的藍圖，全憑自己。You have needs, wants, dreams, and a history that make your life different than anyone else’s. Life is about diversity.
你有需求、希望、夢想，和讓你生活與衆不同的生活經歷。生活就是多樣化。Formal Victorian style is not at all the right approach to a home for me with large dogs and foster kittens; but my streamlined casual style works well. My friend on the other hand would never be happy in a home with all tile floors, it’s just not sophisticated enough for her. “I need carpet and fancy drapes, and live plants”, she laughs.
刻板的維多利亞時代風格以及大狗和福斯特小貓絕不是我中意的居家生活方式：我喜歡簡約型休閒風格的生活。另一方面，我的朋友絕不會喜歡家裏只鋪着瓷磚地板，她認爲那還不夠高檔。“我需要地毯和花式窗簾，還有鮮活的植物”，她笑着說。
And I would look silly in super-low-cut jeans; but then my 20 year old niece would not welcome the tailored suits I often wear, either.
我穿超低牛仔褲一定會看起來很傻：但我20歲的侄女也不會喜歡我經常穿的女式西服。My message is simple -- Happiness lies in that sacred place where you create the diversity that makes your life yours. Happiness lies where self acceptance and self improvement meet. Not just your decorating style, or your choice of jeans --but your ideals, your passions, what makes you smile.
我的信息很簡單，幸福的可貴之處在於你的生活豐富多彩，與衆不同。幸福在於自我認可和自我完善的融合。不只是你的裝修風格，或你選擇的牛仔褲-而是你的理想、你的激情、能讓你微笑的一切。In order for happiness to live with you, your life must reflect what makes sense to you. What you love, what you care about, what you treasure, what you find interesting and important.
爲了讓幸福與你同駐，你的生活必須能證明對你有意義。你的喜愛、你的關心、你的珍愛，你感到有趣和重要的一切。When I first moved to Arizona over 15 years ago now, I had been working with my husband running jobsites for a large construction company. I wanted to do something else when we made the move, but he asked me to stay, and I agreed. It was, after all, what we had been doing all along. Who was I to rock the boat?
當我15年前第一次搬到亞利桑那州時，我一直和我丈夫一起爲一家大型建築公司管理施工現場。我們搬家時，我就想改行幹別的事情，但他要求我留下來，而我就同意了。畢竟，我們一直在做這一行。爲什麼我要自找麻煩呢？I stayed for 2 years, and I did a decent job; but I also was very stressed, and added to his stress, because I was unhappy with my choice. I went to work barely on time, I took every second of my lunch hour, left as early as I could get away with. My heart wasn’t in it.
我做了2年，而且做的是一份體面的工作；但我也感到很緊張，並讓他壓力重重，因爲我的選擇不能讓自己快樂。我上班幾乎從不按時，午餐時間不到最後一刻我絕不起身，下班儘可能早走。我的心全然不在工作上。After the 2 years, I was able to go back to school and start my Coaching Business. Originally, I put in 50 hours a week, never got tired, bored, wanted to quit. Years later, I still don’t get tired. Ok, that’s not true, but I don’t get sick-and-tired, if you know what I mean.
2年之後，我又能夠回到學校重新開始自己的培訓業務。最初，我每週工作50小時，從不疲倦、厭煩和想退卻。幾年後，我仍然毫不厭倦。當然，那也不全對，但我從不感到厭煩和疲倦，或許你知道我的意思。I wouldn’t make it as a rock star. I could never be a chef, or a surgeon. But Life Coaching I love. I found happiness in the variety of life that fits me. You can too!
我不會成爲搖滾明星。我也決不可能成爲廚師，或外科醫生。但我特喜歡生活培訓。我在各種各樣的生活中找到我心儀的幸福感。你也可以!But even with the beauty of diversity, there are of course some basics. Just like in decorating, or fashion style, living a great life involves knowing some basic skills and putting in some foundation pieces. A great paint job won’t help a wall that cracked and peeling!
但多樣化讓生活美好的同時，一些基本要素自然必不可少。就像裝修或時尚風格，過一種美好生活需要了解一些基本的技能，並做一些基礎工作。再好的油漆活也無法修復一面破裂斑駁的牆!Start with the basics, and then from there, it becomes a creative effort that reflects your own personality, your own interests, your own message to the world.
從最基本的開始，然後就從那裏，你的努力纔有創造性，才能反映你自己的個性，自己的興趣，自己向世界傳達的信息。1. Screen out things that aren’t important to you.
1.篩選出對你無關緊要的東西。2. Put your effort in the right places.
2.把自己的精力用對地方。3. Clearly define your priorities.
3.明確設定自己的優先順序。4. Build reserves into your life.
4.爲自己的生活建立儲備。5. Identify and eliminate energy zappers.
5.識別和清除耗費心力的事項。6. Manage your self-talk.
6.管理好自我對話。7. Eliminate overwhelm through daily action.
7.通過日常行爲來消除壓力。Every day that you work hard on being optimistic and strengthening things that are meaningful and important to you, there is less room for unhappiness or self pity. Happiness is being YOU, the very best “you” that you can be.
如果你每天都以樂觀態度努力工作並強化對你來說有意義和重要的東西，你就沒有多少時間感受不快樂或自我憐憫。幸福就是做好自己，做盡可能最好的“自己”。
