如何擁有持續長久的戀愛關係大綱
1) Fight with an end goal
1）與終極目標作鬥爭You know that you’re going to fight with your boyfriend. That’s just the way that it goes. It’s not possible to be happy with anyone 24/7. It doesn’t mean that you’re not truly in love or that your relationship needs to end. All it means is that you’re both normal human beings and you’re part of a normal couple.
你知道你會和你的男友打架。這就是關係發展的方式。與一個人每週7天，每天24小時都開心在一起，是不可能的。這並不意味着你不是真正愛對方，或者你們的關係需要終結。這只是說你們都是正常的人類，你也是正常情侶中的一部分。But if you want your relationship to last (which you probably do since you’re still in it), then you need to fight with an end goal. That means talking to your boyfriend about issues and problems that come up but keeping a solution in mind.
但是如果你想要你的關係能持續（因爲你還在戀愛，你很可能想要持續發展你們的關係），呢麼你需要與你的終極目標作鬥爭。這意味着你需要和你的男友談論出現的問題，但是也要想好解決辦法。
If you’re upset that he’s not spending enough time with you, or that you don’t seem to be on the same page when it comes to your future or how much you’re each committing, you need to have a serious conversation.
如果你因爲他沒有足夠的時間與你在一起，或者當你們在談論到將來以及負責多少的時候，你們沒有達成共識，而感到失望，你需要和他嚴肅地談話一次。But make sure that you get what you want from the talk. If you don’t, you have to keep chatting until you figure it out, or you might realize that you two just aren’t as well matched as you thought.
但是要確保得到你想要從談話中所獲得的結果。如果你沒有的話，你們需要一直交談，直到解決爲止，或許你會發現正如你所想的一樣，並不太合適在一起。2) Have realistic expectations
2）擁有現實的期望Expectations can kill even the best relationships. Think of it this way: if you think your boyfriend is going to surprise you with flowers and a fancy dinner on your one-year anniversary but he does absolutely nothing, how do you feel? Pretty awful, right? You’re definitely pissed because you had an expectation that wasn’t met.
期望能夠終結甚至是最好的關係。這樣考慮一下：如果你認爲你的男友會在你們每年一度的紀念日的時候，給你鮮花和美妙晚餐的驚喜，但是他卻什麼都沒做，你感覺如何呢？非常糟糕，是不是？你肯定會非常生氣，因爲你有未實現的預期。If you can have more realistic expectations, then your relationship has a much better shot of working out. That’s because unfortunately, as much as you wish you could make your boyfriend act the way that you want him, that’s just not the case. Funny how that works, right?
如果你有更現實的期望，那麼你的關係會有更好的進展。這是因爲，不幸的是，你對你的男朋友的所作所爲期望太多，但是事情往往不是如此。這種結果很滑稽，是不是？
